Nurture Your Relationships
To make new relationships, you need to open up, allow your loved ones into your inner world of fears, flaws, and fantasies. Relationship culminates into intimacy, trust and love. You can have a strong bond of love with your mother, sister, lover, or wife.
Are You in a Healthy Relationship?
You love your boyfriend, but somehow you are not sure whether he is right for you. Though you were swept off your feet in the initial phase of courtship, things don't seem as rosy as they used to. Are you having second thoughts? If you are confused and unable to take your relationship to the next level, you need to stand back and analyze the relationship, without getting overwhelmed.
When Love Fades From a Relationship
Often, years of family and financial pressures make couples forget that they were ever in love. In fact, after years of neglect, many couples find it difficult to revisit their romantic side. The fun wears out, leaving two exhausted individuals. At the end, what remains is a functional marriage, where two people provide the necessary services to "run" the institution called marriage, but never really get intimate.
People joke that before marriage, you get love bites, but later, marriage takes the bite out of love. As years roll by, couples forget the reasons they fell in love. Intimacy and romance make way for schedules and budgets. Laughter is replaced by a permanent scowl.
Russian writer, Leo Tolstoy, said, "What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility." If you feel that your relationship has hit a rough patch, you need to reexamine it. Find the root cause of your problems. Sort out the major issues. Talk to your spouse, and also lend her a patient ear. If you hit a dead end, you can use the help of a close friend or a marriage counselor.
The Evolution of Love
Often, romantic couples expect their marriage to be a perpetual whirlwind affair. You get carried away by romantic movies, and books, which portray the "happily-ever-after" image. However, after a few years, love tends to mellow down. Passionate love makes way for symbolic gestures of affection. Cute, lovey-dovey conversation gradually gives way to comfortable silences. It does not mean that love has evaporated from the relationship. Young love evolves into mature love. With time, love acquires a deeper, richer flavor. Sometimes love can be bitter; at other times, love can be spiritual.
When Relationships Cannot Be Revived
In some cases, as relationships evolve, people grow apart. Their shared beliefs, value systems, and philosophies no longer remain. The partners find themselves at two ends of the relationship spectrum, and the twain cannot meet. If you find that you have no commonality left, and you have become emotionally distant, you will find it tough to survive in such a relationship. When there are no hopes for revival, it is time to move on. It is better to sever ties and end the relationship on friendly terms, rather than drag it along till it drains you mentally.
A broken relationship does not mean the end of the world. You may feel depressed, lonely, and sad, but you will soon come out of the dark tunnel to find light at the other end. Love hurts, but you will recover soon. Get inspired to bounce back into life, and renew your enthusiasm to live and love. These relationship quotes offer great insight, and a healthy dose of inspiration.
Fannie Flagg, Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe
I wonder how many people don't get the one they want, but end up with the one they're supposed to be with.
The mother-child relationship is paradoxical and, in a sense, tragic. It requires the most intense love on the mother's side, yet this very love must help the child grow away from the mother, and to become fully independent.
Many marriages would be better if the husband and the wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.
Having someone wonder where you are when you don't come home at night is a very old human need.
Jean Paul Richter
Never part without loving words to think of during your absence. It may be that you will not meet again in this life.
Barbara De Angelis
The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make – not just on your wedding day, but over and over again – and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.
When you make the sacrifice in marriage, you're sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship.
All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest -- never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principles of equal partnership.
Don Miguel Ruiz
Relationship is an art. The dream that two people create is more difficult to master than one.
Romantic love is mental illness. But it’s a pleasurable one. It’s a drug. It distorts reality, and that’s the point of it. It would be impossible to fall in love with someone that you really saw.
Whenever I date a guy, I think, is this the man that I want my children to spend their weekends with?
Robert Louis Stevenson
Absences are a good influence in love and keep it bright and delicate.
Never go to bed mad -- stay up and fight.
Robert C. Dodds
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
Common courtesy plays a big role in happy marriages. People who are permanently married are polite to one another. They don’t want to hurt one another’s feelings, and they don’t try to make the other one feel humiliated. People who are married for life are extremely kind to one another.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery, Flight to Arras
Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.
The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but to hold hands.
Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.
Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.